Recent research shows that the majority of U.S. families depend on their mother working–yet, we continue to live in a society that assumes work is optional for women. This mindset results in fewer pro-family laws to ensure a mother can earn a fair and equal pay to her male colleagues, mothers (or fathers) can stay home with a sick child, and can take maternity/paternity leave. Many other countries are far more progressive, but in the U.S.:
- 70% of mothers work.
- 40% of mothers are sole earners for their family.
- 13% of workers receive paid family leave.
- 54% of mothers do not have paid sick days.
These are the harsh realities.
Even outside the U.S. many women struggle as working mothers.
- Global average annual income for women is $11,000 and for men $21,000.
But statistics do not need to represent your life. You have the possibility to rise out of the bell shape curve and actually raise the bar. But it takes courage, determination, and the right support. My work is dedicated to helping you take control of your own life and create work that is meaningful and pays you really well.
Here are three things you can do to keep pushing the average higher, by being more successful personally than the masses:
- Believe in yourself, your capacity to succeed, and your ideas. In my 3 Keys to Success I go into detail about how this critical component is needed in everything if you want to succeed. Having strong affirmations about what you want are meaningless, UNLESS you believe you can achieve them.
- Create more value than required. Those who succeed in big ways have made a name for themselves along the way that let’s people know they are someone to trust to deliver–whether it is your customers or a boss. Look for things that need to be done, don’t wait to be asked. The saying, “Go the extra mile,” is good advice mainly because so few people do it that you stand out. As a mother, staying late every night may not be the way you go your extra mile. But if you are creative you will see holes that need filling that you can creatively fill.
- Ask for what you need. Most of us assume we can’t have what we need and never ask. However, if you make yourself valuable (see number 2), you will be surprised how far people will lean to support your needs. Do you need to leave early but are willing to complete projects after bedtime? Talk to your employer or create schedules with your staff that support your life rather than remain a slave to it.
Having courage and determination is easier with support. Find a group of other women who you can meet regularly and support each others’ goals and aspirations. Don’t make this meeting a purely social event. Take an hour to hear each others wins and each women’s needs. Then help each other find solutions to whatever challenges you each face. Your power for accomplishing 1,2, and 3 above will go up exponentially and so will your success.